The Adventures of Fatherman

Don’t be that parent at a youth sporting event.

Friendly reminder going into the weekend: Never be that parent at a youth sporting event who:

  • makes their child second guess their on-field play and decision making,
  • complains about what the coach is or isn’t doing during the game, and/or
  • verbally nitpicks every little thing the team did wrong post-game.

It’s not that serious, people. Kids learn through trial and error. There are coaches more in line with the Phil Jackson method of coaching (regardless of sport) that value player/team growth and development over winning every play and every game.

If you are an overbearing parent at your child’s game, your child will come to second guess every decision they make, resulting in more mistakes due to nerves than if you would have kept your lips sealed. In other words, what you’re doing may backfire. And, they may fall out of love with the game and end up not wanting to play in the future because it’s not fun anymore.

This is a reminder to me as much as it is to any and every parent. Sure, it can get competitive out there, particularly if the sidelines are laced with a string of other overbearing parents. But try not saying anything with your mouth and mannerisms for the duration of the game. You may find your child begins to excel, and they have, wait for it — fun.

Bench your ego. Let the kids play!

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