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Health and Wellness Memoir Nonfiction

The many benefits of being sick—no, really

When we think of being sick, we don’t often think rosy thoughts or the many benefits that come of it. Wait, being sick has benefits?

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Nonfiction Memoir

I fell in love with my wife in high school, but thank goodness we never dated

It would have been a complete disaster. Here’s why.

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Memoir Nonfiction Writing

Polly Was a Fat Dog

The story of the world’s fattest liver and white basset hound

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Memoir Nonfiction

My Dad Died, But He Is Not Dead

Something kids of dead parents know is this: it gets better, but only when you accept the pain and look the suffering in the eye and ask, “What do you want me to know? What is it you want me…

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Memoir Nonfiction

Episode 5 of This Is Me Being Uncomfortable

In this episode of This Is Me Being Uncomfortable, I mumble about launching a podcast by accident; why I decided to return to writing Jeremiah’s story; and how human beings are connected by story to one another, globally.

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Memoir Nonfiction

The Jeremiah Hamlett Memorial Scholarship Fund, and how this blog will help fund it up to $10,000

Recently, I spoke with the executive director of the Southside Virginia Community College (SVCC) Foundation about relaunching the Jeremiah Hamlett Memorial Scholarship Fund. WHEN THE LIGHTS GO OUT AT 10:16, a memoir I began in July 2003, will be the vehicle which helps fund the scholarship in Jeremiah’s memory.

Getting this scholarship fund back off the ground is something I have had my heart set on for a while. Continuing our story of childhood and friendship is also something that has been on my mind for quite some time, and I’ve struggled mightily with how to share it with others but in a way that it is more than just a story—a way that gives it purpose. So, I decided to marry the two ideas in this initiative.

After all, it wasn’t until the summer of 2003, the night Jeremiah had his first seizure and subsequent diagnosis of brain cancer, that I ever began writing stories—WHEN THE LIGHTS GO OUT to be precise. Jeremiah’s diagnosis was also the reason I decided to return to college; and Southside, by way of a class assignment from Ms. Judy Lloyd, is where WHEN THE LIGHTS GO OUT really took off and went from a few random paragraphs in my green notebook to what it eventually became and is today.

Find out how you can help support this worthy cause by clicking the link below.

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Nonfiction Essays

I listened to Taylor Swift and my ears did not bleed. Instead, they rejoiced

On a recent family vacation, my daughter wanted to listen to Taylor Swift. I wanted to listen to Bouncing Souls. She won.

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Memoir Nonfiction

If I am not being creative, I become a lukewarm version of myself and jeopardize my happiness

If I’m not being creative, I’m not happy. It’s that simple.

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Memoir Nonfiction

But whatever I am has its source back there…

But whatever I am has its source back there . . . from which I left . . . and to which I never returned to live.

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Memoir Nonfiction

An Empty Chamber, Black and Hollow and Alone

Nothing’s going to happen. You’ll be fine.

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Memoir Nonfiction

The Red Lollipop

HE WOULD DO this little shimmy waist down, inching closer unbeknownst to you what the hell he was setting you up for, and by the time you realized it, it was already too late. He’d anchor the weight of his lead foot and mash it down on your helpless toes, and you were stuck there like a bug in mud, unable to retreat, and he’d take that sharp knuckled middle finger of his and bend it in his fist and drive that sucker right into the hollow point of your bicep and he’d dig a little at the end, twisting it as if a key opening a door, as he locked and loaded another round in the chamber.

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Memoir Nonfiction

El Chupacabra on a Friday night at 1 a.m.

We used to lay there, on our backs, on a tin roof the color of a sardine can, peeled back at the eave, black tar sealant spread like mustard on bread.

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Memoir Nonfiction

The Man Who Walked Off the Face of the Earth

He wasn’t much different than you and me before the accident.

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Memoir Nonfiction

Where My Father Once Stood

The urine and fallen hair at the base of the toilet were reminders of where my dad once stood.

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Memoir Nonfiction

When Depression Comes to the Workplace

On January 29, 2010, eight months after my dad died from leukemia, my depression reached its peak and I attempted to quit my job. That morning in an email to my manager and director, I wrote…

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Memoir Nonfiction

Grief Is a Fire, Smoldering

Grief is a fire that burns slowly. There are no flames high as with anger. The coals are hot just below the surface, smoldering.

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Memoir Nonfiction

When the nightmares began

Shortly after my dad died, I began sleepwalking and experiencing night terrors. Then my dad appeared to me in a dream.

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Memoir Nonfiction

Babies Have Soft Spots on Their Skulls

My sister recently gave birth. It was her second—this time a girl; small, beautiful, long fingered. Upon visiting her in the hospital, I was reminded of how delicate a newborn is. Also, in this post, I digress slightly on the topic of grocery shopping at Harris Teeter with my son Henry

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Memoir Nonfiction

In Phenix, Virginia, I Was Born and Raised

Now more than ever, my hometown of Phenix, Virginia, carries with it ghosts. The ghosts of my childhood. Almost fourteen years ago, I wrote these very lines.

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Nonfiction Memoir

This is Happiness

Happiness as a state of being in the present moment.