Overcoming Anxiety: What is Anxiety?

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  1. Jeff- my 10 year old has been diagnosed with anxiety disorder that is related mostly to fears of death. She has a horrible time when her dad travels because she sees things like you describe happening here when you see those blue lights pass you. I have been taking her to counseling for almost a year with no improvement – recently her counselor suggested meds. I talked to the pediatrician and after talking to myself and my daughter, she completely agreed. So we are trying it and are two weeks into it. It was a hard decision to have your 10 year old take Zoloft- but when she is unable to do sleepovers- or even go on a spring break trip with myself and her sister- for fear that her dad will die in a car accident if she isn’t here in the same town– I have to try something else to help her.

    1. My heart goes out to you. I was that way when I was her age. Nobody knew because I kept it all in, but I suffered silently and terribly. Horrible events played over and over in my head. I still was that person until recently (and by recently I mean six months ago); and even now, I still have moments. I’m going to go into detail about this in a later blog post, but meditation… I highly recommend it.

      She might think it’s silly or lame. Tell her it’s silly and lame. I definitely would have thought it was silly or lame at that age.

      Have her meditate every morning before she gets out of bed and every night before she goes to sleep. There’s an app called Stop, Breathe, & Think which is great, particularly if you or anyone reading this is like me and has/had no clue how to meditate or where to even begin. The key is consistency and scheduling. Hence, first thing in the morning while she lays in bed, still dark out, and at night.

      You can meditate with her. I think that would be really helpful actually.

      (Once again, if she thinks it’s stupid, tell her it is, but that you’re going to be stupid together for at least 60 days, every day)

      It has provided great benefits for me — someone who apparently is anxious while sleeping and when waking, meaning: I actually have panic attacks that begin while I sleep. Meditation has all but erased this.

      There are other outlets I’m going to suggest too that I’ll go into detail about. But another one relates to something I read in a book recently. Think of it like this, which is what the author does. He calls anxiety a wild horse. Meditation is training the wild horse to be calm and to learn stillness. Running, which is my second recommendation (doesn’t matter how slow or fast you go, as long as you go), exhausts the wild horse. And sometimes, you have to exhaust the wild horse. I like to exhaust the wild horse every day with running. It’s a little extreme, but I know how my head works if I don’t.

      Best to you and your family. Thinking of you.

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