My dad taught me many valuable lessons in life. From how to ride a bike, drive a stick shift, and throw a slider, to the more invaluable counsels only a father could pass on to a son, such as how to cautiously and correctly mow the lawn without dicing off my big toe like a neighbor of ours, Tammy, just down the street.
When, on May 21, 2009, my dad lost his two-month battle with Acute Myelogenous Leukemia (AML), succumbing to a bacterial superbug that crept into his body overnight, his passing brought great sadness. So, too, drew closer to heart memories and reflections of the lighter side of his life. Perhaps the greatest lesson my dad ever taught me was a lesson he never taught me at all: how to cook.
To fry an egg, essentially you need but five basic ingredients and utensils found in nearly any and every kitchen across America: (1) Butter or nonstick cooking spray, (2) a frying pan, (3) spatula, (4) stove, and lastly, (5) eggs.
To complete the process is a simple task. Set the burner to medium, toss 1 ½ teaspoons of butter into an 8-inch frying pan, let the skillet reach its heating point, crack an egg or two on the side, drop the eggs into the pan, and in 3-or-4 minutes, lo! there it is, a fried egg for breakfast.
Let’s face it, who can’t fry an egg?
My dad. That’s who.
As friends and family gathered at our house following my dad’s death, my mother began revisiting this story from many years ago.
“Wayne Pillow,” she said, “was no cook and never professed to be.”
As the story goes, early in the summer of 1982, when my mom wasn’t home, my dad’s hunter-gatherer instincts beckoned. Paternal intuition came in the cry of a hungry child. Daddy’s idea seemed paltry enough, a crackerjack undertaking in simplicity: to fry my sister an egg for breakfast.
Jennifer, my older sister, was at the time only a two-and-half-year-old tot, with eating habits revolving around the food pyramid of cut up cucumbers, boiled carrots, and the like. Daddy was a grown man of 32-years-in-age, and myself, I was but a new entry into this world having been born in the fall of 1981.
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In Daddy’s daily repertoire throughout life, cooking had never been his designated forte. Changing the oil or putting a new timing belt on the cars, yes. A hammer or axe in his hand was as natural to him as breathing in and out. A spatula in his right hand and an oven mitt on his left — not quite so.
Cooking is my mom’s forte. Mama has always been the resident chef of the house, the Grill Master, the Keeper of the Oven. She absolutely loves to cook, bake, sauté, boil, roast, and broil. When Mama isn’t cooking, oftentimes she is glued to the boob tube watching others on television cook: Giada de Laurentiis, Paula Deen, and Pat and Gina Neely from Road Tasted. If someone has a show on Food Network, you can bet your bottom dollar my mom has seen it at least once and tried the recipe on for size in the Pillow household of Phenix, Virginia.
With but two of the necessary five ingredients and utensils to complete his culinary duty as a father, Daddy winged it essentially and made due with what he could find in the cabinets and shelves in the kitchen, eyeing utensils he had seen my mother use previously (apparently when making fudge brownies). My dad’s kitchen compass all the while spun wildly and disastrously out of control with misdirection.
Equipped with a metal bread pan, or jellyroll pan, as my mom refers to it, Daddy embarked in his futile attempt at nourishing my sister with the apposite banquet of protein for the ages.
Bypassing the stovetop burners, Daddy set his eyes on the oven below, cranking it up to 450 degrees while simultaneously cracking open two eggs. The egg whites and yolks spread out, running from one end of the metal baking pan to the other. Thinking himself on the right path he inserted this newfound delicacy into the hot oven.
(Technically, there is a such recipe as an oven baked egg, but I’ll go out on a limb here, a rather solid limb made of oak, and say this was definitely not my dad’s intention.)
Hours later when Mama returned home, she found her once shiny, metal baking pan resting in the sink crusted over with a thick black residue — very much like coal in texture. After hours of soaking the pan in soapy water, “to no prevail,” my mom said finishing the story with a smile, “it had to be thrown away. It was useless. It’s no wonder your sister hates fried eggs to this day!”
Growing up, I often wondered how my dad always managed to get out of cooking even a single meal. After thirty plus years of marriage to my mom and with two grown children, none of us had ever seen him make more than a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or a bowl of chocolate ice-cream.
As Mama revisited this story the day after he passed, I saw the answer surface rather swiftly as to how he accomplished this feat. My dad was never in his life known as Chef Wayne and for a very good reason, a reason that kept our house standing and the Phenix Volunteer Fire Department’s sirens at bay.
Yes, Daddy taught me many important lessons in life, but the greatest of all was how not to fry an egg; and for that, I say, “Thanks Dad.”
Written June 28, 2009
14 replies on “How Not To Fry An Egg”
Love, Love, Love this memory you penned! Thank you son!
Imagining Daddy trying to cook always a fun one
That’s hilarious and a good start to my morning. Thanks for the laugh. I may stick with oatmeal for breakfast hahaha
Glad you got a laugh out of it dm
Sounds like my husband. That’s why we keep a fire extinguisher in the house lol
Ha. Always need a fire extinguisher close by. Thankfully, I didn’t inherit my dad’s culinary skills. I’m not exactly Chef Jeff, but I can manage fried eggs and anything that calls for five ingredients or less — usually. Is your husband’s idea of making dinner picking up cheeseburgers at McDonald’s? I’m not judging.
Your post brought tears of joy to my eyes as I recalled memories of my Dad: eating a tub of margarine a week that was spread on the numerous biscuits he would eat throughout the day; always having eggs and either bacon or sausage every morning; sharing every thing he ate with his dog Mac; an ice cold Pepsi during the summer months to quench the thirst from working in the garden. And to be fair…my mother was know for burning bread. Those of us in the extended family called it McCormick bread. Ahhh! Sweet memories for me today. Thanks for sharing yours.
Great memories Sue. I think food (the scent especially) can bring back memories perhaps more than anything.
Funny you mention that about the biscuits with your dad. On a similar note, my dad and I used to eat biscuits with ice cold butter. A heaping knifeful too. We used to tear through some raw potatoes as well. Used to drive my mom crazy when she was trying to ready up mashed potatoes at the house and we were always snagging the ones she’d just peeled.
Enjoyed this story very much. I could really visualize all that happened in that cooking adventure so long ago.. a nice memory for sure….
Thanks for reading Tina. If only there was video, we could have won America’s Funniest Home Videos back in the 80s.
Wayne being the first child in the Pillow family…he was spoiled. Not only by his parents but also by his grandparents who lived just across the road. He never had to cook, cut the lawn or work in the grocery store. But that was ok we loved him dearly and miss him greatly. Loved the story and I can see him now in the kitchen…trying to cook.
I wish I had known he didn’t have to cut the grass growing up. Ha. He put me on the lawnmower as soon as I stopped wearing velcro shoes. I think I was six. Just kidding.
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Thanks Alysa. I appreciate you taking the time to read it as well.